Dearest hearts those of you who are empathic, who feel the heartache, disappointment and fears of another as if they were your own, have adopted a coping mechanism, living in fear of disappointing others or living for the approval of others, that is stifling your growth as an individual. Although, feeling the pain of another is an advanced ability, the coping mechanism of living for the approval of others, causes you to regress. Instead of following the guidance of your heart and becoming the empowered being for good that you desire to be, you’ve followed the delusion of the mind and allowed yourselves to be terrorized by the idea of not being good enough.
No, that which is causing you harm is your attitude about who you are and what you have to offer
We understand that failure is an unpleasant consequence that may be encountered on the life journey. Yet, failure, like all things, provides a unique learning opportunity so failure is not the problem. Even if you failed, again and again, it would not pose a problem. No, that which is causing you harm is your attitude about who you are and what you have to offer. As a sensitive soul, you have a second sense about others. You can pick up on their energetic output so you know what the other person may be feeling. Their discouragement becomes yours, their disappointment is felt within your being and their frustration with their life situation may suddenly seem as though it must be your responsibility. When you falsely assume that you can be responsible for another person’s life choices you’ve moved out of the empathic state of being into the “I have to assume responsibility for others” state and this is a danger zone.
Your gift of empathy makes you aware of what others may be feeling but it was never meant nor does it require you to fix another person’s situation
Your gift of empathy makes you aware of what others may be feeling but it was never meant nor does it require you to fix another person’s situation. Instead of seeing yourself as fixing their situation or helping, you must see it for what it is. Interfering or hindering another person’s ability to grow. So why then do empaths fear they will disappoint others and/or hold themselves back so that others can shine? Because instead of living the life journey they assigned themselves, they’re trying to live someone else’s. Instead of focusing on what they need to do to progress, they’ve gotten caught up in the trials and tribulations of another and they’re now living to please someone else instead of living to enhance their own life journey through exploration and advancement.
The empath in you lives in fear of being perceived as selfish, but it’s time for you to learn how to ask for direction from the Divine rather than trying to keep the peace by doing what others want you to do
If you’ve found yourself holding back or taking a path that feels good to someone else but not to you, it’s time for you to get out of your own way. Instead of determining your path by reading and absorbing the energy in the room, you must make your own way. The empath in you lives in fear of being perceived as selfish, but it’s time for you to learn how to ask for direction from the Divine rather than trying to keep the peace by doing what others want you to do. The fear that keeps you up at night is that you’ll somehow disappoint those whom you feel beholden to and that disappointment will then become your own no matter how hard you may have tried to please. Empaths, please understand this truth. Nothing you do will ever be good enough unless you’re working to satisfy a personal goal. If you continue to live your life chasing the dreams of another, you will never feel fulfilled. You will always feel like a failure and you will never succeed in pleasing those whom you are working so hard to satisfy. You cannot do the work for another person, you can only do it for you.
You cannot bring someone else to a better place successfully, they must do it themselves
When you feel overwhelmed and as if you are always disappointing others it’s time to take a step back and ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? What do I hope to gain? And what level of satisfaction am I hoping to receive?” If you have no personal goal attached to your mission, if your goal is to make so and so happy, then you’re transferring their goals into your life in an attempt to make them feel better about themselves and their life. However, you are not them. You cannot bring someone else to a better place successfully, they must do it themselves. They cannot do it for you and you cannot do it for them. Each one must do it for themselves. Take your attention off of what someone else wants, stop trying to get it for them, you’ll absolutely fail. Instead, place your attention on what you want and do all you know how to make your life better and to bring yourself joy. From your increased state of joy, you become a more powerful energetic being. Your light shines brighter and you’ll be able to help others find their own joy.
It is only when you begin using your sensitivity to find that which feels good to you that you’ll find your way forward into the success you’ve always desired but never thought was possible
No matter how sensitive you are you’ll never be successful at living someone else’s life. You will always fail at being them or doing it for them. It is only when you begin using your sensitivity to find that which feels good to you that you’ll find your way forward into the success you’ve always desired but never thought was possible. Yet, it’s from that pinnacle of success that you’ll be shining brightly and lighting the way for all.
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This is amazing
All The Best, Joshua N. Garfunkel